That’s how Ryan Reid sums up the very modern, very NSFW meet-cute with her boyfriend—during a threesome with fellow adult star Gal Ritchie. On a recent episode of Holly Randall Unfiltered, Ryan tells it all with a grin, from wild love stories to awkward family reveals.

Her journey into the adult industry? Equally unfiltered.

“I saw Riley Reid on Instagram and was like, ‘Oh my god, this girl's so cute,’” she recalls. One simple DM later, she found herself taken under the famous pornstar’s wing on a path that led to becoming a Brazzers contract star and one of the most sought-after Spiegler Girls in the business.

But Ryan’s start in sex work wasn’t exactly subtle.

“In high school, I sent my sister’s ex-boyfriend a nude—didn’t know he was her boyfriend,” she admits. “My sister found it on his phone and sent it to my mom and dad. And that’s how they found out I was gonna be a whore.”

Her parents weren’t thrilled. (Understatement.) There was yelling. Threats to disown her. But eventually… they got over it. Maybe not every family has “found nudes on a boyfriend’s phone” in their origin story—but for Ryan, it was the beginning of something bigger.

The episode dives into the broader implications of sex work’s growing visibility. Ryan’s commentary on the rise of “OnlyFans-only girls” sparked debate: “OnlyFans-only girls kind of ruin the mainstream porn girls' image because they're like, 'Oh, I imply, I don't show anything,' which is fine. Do your imply, but don't promote that you're doing full-blown sex work.”

Holly and Ryan dive deeper into the conversation around what is the definition of sex work, challenging the idea that it’s strictly based on what is physically shown. Rather than measuring it by explicit acts or levels of nudity, they explore the emotional and social risks involved—being vulnerable online, facing lifelong stigma, and navigating the potential loss of relationships and societal acceptance. For Ryan, sex work is less about specific actions and more about the willingness to take those risks and show up authentically, even when it comes at a personal cost:

“I feel like being completely vulnerable and being your truest self, naked and afraid on the internet—that is sex work.”

Her point? There’s a difference between implication and actual sex work—and calling it all the same thing muddies the conversation, especially as adult creators push for legitimacy and recognition. And that legitimacy may finally be arriving.

At this year’s Oscars, Sean Baker’s Anora—a film about sex work—took home multiple awards. Both Baker and star Mickey Madison used their acceptance speeches to thank and uplift the sex worker community, signaling a cultural shift. As Holly put it, “We’ve always been like the black sheep of the entertainment industry… to be legitimized and recognized on the stage at the Oscars, the biggest night in Hollywood... it was a really big step.”

Of course, it wouldn’t be a Ryan Reid episode without a few laughs about brain chemistry. When discussing why her current relationship works, she credits her boyfriend’s age—36—and, more specifically, his frontal lobe. “Men don’t even develop that until their late 20s,” she teases.

Holly, jumps in with the medical field’s diagnosis: “The frontal lobe is fully developed in women at the age of 20 to 21… but it’s not fully developed in guys until between 25 to early 30s. Oh, and by the way—ours is bigger.”

With that, the episode wraps up a conversation that’s as hilarious and raunchy as it is thoughtful and insightful—much like Ryan herself. From rogue nudes and frontal lobes to Academy recognition and digital intimacy, the line between sex, love, and legitimacy in the adult world is getting blurrier—and more honest—than ever.